I’m switching gears a little bit now.

Last night when you were getting ready for bed I watched a video where someone said, “There are old people and fat people, but few old fat people.” For some reason it really hit home for me. Maybe now is the right timing, I’m not quite sure.

I think until now it’s been easy to ignore the issue of my weight, to think that it’s not really affecting me. Until recently the only affect my weight had on me was in my dating life and after finding the woman of my dreams, my work-out routine quickly declined.

But after all of the health issues I’ve run into lately, it really puts things in perspective for me. I’m NOT healthy, and if I want to live a long life and grow old with you I need to correct course. I don’t want to grow old with you laying in a hospital bed. That just doesn’t seem appealing or happy for anyone.

So I want to be able to focus on getting healthier and having you as an accountability partner so we can live long, happy, healthy lives together. I think it’s important for our together in love-ness.

I feel weird about doing this because it seems like it’s really for and about me and my problems. (since when did smooches become a helpline for me?). But if I suck, it’s probably going to bring you down too so, that’s my thought process lol.

Here’s an except from the book:


For the vast majority of you reading this book who weigh more than 120 pounds, 20 pounds of
recomposition (which I’ll define below) will make you look and feel like a new person, so I
suggest this as a goal. If you weigh less than 120 pounds, aim for 10 pounds; otherwise, 20
pounds is your new, specific goal.
Even if you have 100+ pounds to lose, start with 20.
On a 1–10 attractiveness scale, 20 pounds appears to be the critical threshold for going from a
6 to a 9 or 10, at least as tested with male perception of females.
The term “recomposition” is important. It does not mean a 20-pound reduction in weight. It’s
a 20-pound change in appearance. A 20-pound “recomp” could entail losing 20 pounds of fat
or gaining 20 pounds of muscle, but it most often involves losing 15 pounds of fat and gaining 5
pounds of muscle, or some blend in between.
Designing the best physique includes both subtraction and addition.


How, then, do we get to 20 pounds?
Imagine a ruler with 100 lines on it, representing 100 total units, and two sliders. This allows
us to split the 100 units into three areas that total 100. These three areas represent diet, drugs,
and exercise.
An equal split would look like this:
________/________/________ (33% diet, 33% drugs, 33% exercise)
It is possible to reach your 20-pound recomp goal with any combination of the three, but
some combinations are better than others. One hundred percent drugs can get you there, for
example, but it will produce the most long-term side eFects. One hundred percent exercise can
get you there, but if injuries or circumstances interfere, the return to baseline is fast.
/__________/ (100% drugs) = side effects
//__________ (100% exercise) = easy to derail
Here is the ratio of most of the fat-loss case studies in this book:
______/_/___ (60% diet, 10% drugs, 30% exercise)
If you’re unable to follow a prescribed diet, as is sometimes the case with travel or
vegetarianism, you’ll need to move the sliders to increase the % attention paid to exercise and
drugs. For example:
_/____/_____ (10% diet, 45% drugs, 45% exercise)
The numbers need not be measured, but this concept is critical to keep in mind as the world
interferes with plans. Learning diet and exercise principles is priority #1, as these are the
bedrock elements.Relying too much on drugs makes your liver and kidneys unhappy.
The percentages will also depend on your personal preferences and “adherence,” which we
cover next.